Midlife: When the Universe grabs your shoulders and tells you “I’m not f-ing around, use the gifts you were given.” Brene Brown
I love this quote as it so beautifully describes where I found myself three years ago. I was a 46-year-old mom to 4 tweens/teens, living a super busy, often chaotic, but happy life. By all outward signs life was perfect and I had no room for complaints, yet inside I felt drained, out of energy, and this inner stirring that I was meant for more and something needed to change, but what exactly? And why was I feeling this way? I tried to ignore this inner stirring, however I could feel the next decade breathing down my back begging me to figure it out before I turned 50.
YIKES 50 are you kidding me!!!!
Have you ever felt that inner stirring with an area of your life, yet for the life of you can’t figure it out?
You start to feel less than excited about your daily routine and current reality?
I was working as the publisher of a neighborhood magazine when Sarah reached out to me with an article idea to help spread the word on SheTri’s. As she shared her passion and explained what it was about, I casually said, “Oh wow this sounds exciting! I’ve run several marathons in the past but have never done a tri, as I can’t swim to save my life. I would be happy to place an article in the magazine for you.” I’m pretty sure she took that as the only hook line and sinker she needed to convince me to join this group.
What I didn’t realize at the time was by saying yes I was getting ready to change the whole trajectory of my next life chapter that I desperately needed to step into, not just help Sarah out with awareness and participation in her race. She promised that there were bubble blowers in the pool and women of all skill levels, ages and sizes supporting one another. I reluctantly trusted and stepped out of my comfort zone, signed up with Sara’s encouragement, and decided maybe it was the very thing I needed to figure out this inner stirring that was plaguing me.
What I found in this group was this special girl power energy that can only be found when women genuinely support other women from their hearts. When women show up authentically as themselves and say YES I can do this! The organization, support, camaraderie and care that I felt becoming a SheTri member was exactly what I was looking for yet didn’t know it.
What was race day like? After making it through the pool with most of my laps in breast stroke not freestyle, after cheering other women on as we passed one another on the bike ride and feeling every past marathon injury my body has ever had flare up while running I felt like the strongest, most courageous woman crossing the finish line. She Tri brought clarity to me on how important it is to put ourselves first so we can serve our families and careers better. It’s that moment in time that reminded me how strong I am. That I have accomplished so much before and I am capable of accomplishing so much more. Life has a way of beating you down, seemingly not opening up enough time or keeping you so busy that you forget to listen to your inner wisdom. But that inner stirring is your GPS system signaling you it’s time to grow, pivot, evolve into your next chapter. When an unexpected opportunity casually comes across your radar, pay attention as it may just be the thing you need to step into in order to evolve into your next chapter.